Every bride dreamed of a perfect wedding night. In fact, more perfect and much aligned with how she envisions it.
Inspired by the movie that they’ve seen. They wished for a wedding night that had romantic music, an entryway filled with rose petals, and soft or dim lights.
The main attraction they hoped for that night was a charming groom whose extra efforts were making his bride soulfully satisfied.
That was a woman’s dream after a long day of preparation and celebration for tying the knot. Everything was beautiful and all, until the night came… and the husband turned the once-in-a-blue-moon event into a perfect disaster.
An unfortunate event that is experienced by some women in their lifetime. What turns out to be a happy newlywed couple became each other’s discomfort after the ceremony.
Perhaps, it could be a reality check for the newlyweds. A wedding may be a perfect occasion, but an escape to a cruel reality that they must now face as a couple.
Whether they work with each other’s differences and personalities, or slowly ruin what they have built so far.
What should we learn about this perfect-turned-disaster wedding, where husbands turned the wedding night into a big mess?
A Check Between Fantasy and Reality
Weddings are expected as a perfect ceremony and celebration. Filled with happiness, agreement, and excitement for the beloved couple.
However, the wedding ceremony and the wedding night can be considered as a check between fantasy and reality. Especially to women, where you can now reveal the genuine attitude of their husbands.
A wedding became a symbol of temporary happiness influenced by your fantasy. On the other hand, the wedding night is where the newlyweds will be slapped with reality.
It is as if you will now face the challenges about romance, secret pleasures, and something you are about to find out.
What could ruin your romantic wedding night? Will my husband have to make this night a catastrophic one? How will this great night become memorable?
This is where the fantasy shifts into reality, where both couples have to figure out something about themselves. It is either a night they will forever remember, or a night that they wish they hadn’t experienced.
Wedding-Night Disasters Can be Volatile
Since it is your first day as newlyweds, the wedding night may not always mean the memorable night they both seek for a long time.
Even marriage counselors would agree that the couple’s first night will not always be that romantic fantasy that we always expect from them.
It might be that the first night may be filled with family drama, stress, nervousness, exhaustion, overwhelming tiredness, adjustment, or it could be a memorable night, going in and out of the bathroom.
If newlyweds don’t have to be intimate on their first night, that’s totally normal. It means they are either stressed, too tired, or they might have planned everything already.
As long as the disaster has nothing to do with the status of their relationship (that may lead to early divorce), it can be normal or understandable for their situation.
Expectation vs Reality on the Wedding Night
Everybody hopes for your wedding night to be perfect or romantic. But you don’t have to worry if you don’t feel like having intimacy during the first night.
Society, social media, and TV always portray the first night the wrong way. Couples have different experiences that many do not know about.
Marriages are not always about intimacy, comfort, or being there with each other. There are lots of things that shape the reality of your lives as newlyweds.
Always remember that marriages are built with laughter, understanding differences, grace, and a lot of forgiveness to keep it working and fruitful.
There are bigger problems you will face in the future, besides getting angry for not having an intimate first wedding night.
Open Communication is Essential
Do you want to know what keeps a marriage long-term aside from a whole lot of forgiveness and patience? Having open communication with each other.